Friend or Faux?

Okay so my mates actually read my blog - thank you gays! One suggested how I should write one about them, so I thought why not write about friendships!

The close friends we make in our lives are inevitably going to be one of the most important relationships we hold. The people we surround ourselves with, have a huge impact on us and sometimes we don't even realise this.

At times, the way we are as individuals can be dependant on how or who our friends are. They really can have a positive or negative effect on us and our lives.

Your true friends are the ones who are with you when times are hard. When you need them the most - they're there. When you need someone to talk to at any time of day - they're there. When you've got yourself in a pickle - they're there. Whatever you go through in life, the ups AND the downs, your true friends will always be there for you. And its amazing to know people who put others first. Count yourself lucky!

However, the sun doesn't shine forever. You may find that for the laughs yeah okay, they're with you, but you've been left alone in certain moments or hardships in life and they aren't the supportive people you need them to be. Well then, let me confirm: they're definitely faux mon chère.

If they never put any effort with you and continuously make excuses that they've just been 'too busy' or you simply feel you cannot reach out to them, then they're not worthy of being your friend. If they care they'll show it, if not, then wave them goodbye (doesn't have to be forever though!)

As hard as it is, when it does come to that point, it's high time to find other company who will not only be there for you, yet possibly even mould you into a better and stronger individual. Now that's far from being faux.

Obviously, one of the hardest things you can do is let go of people who once meant so much, but if you know something's not good for you, you've got to leave it and move on to better things. Bad influences can really ruin people.

This made me laugh!

It's sad, I know. Sometimes some relationships are just not meant to be and losing someone can make you aware of what kind of person you need to be around more, or less. You even learn how you are and should be as an individual. All these things that happen are merely learning processes in life. Kismat (fate), brings people together and can also pull them apart and with each relationship you're certainly taught something or the other.

I'm lucky to have the friends that I have! Actually no, they're lucky to have me, pffft :P

Some I've know for yearss and others I've just made! We laugh, we argue, we cry (well that's mainly me I guess) together. We can talk to each other about pretty much anything - no seriously, like literally, anything! We're kinda like one big family. It's nice. Makes you feel good to be surrounded by such people :)

And that's incredibly important: immersing yourself amongst GOOD people, because, in the end, the people you have in your life can influence the quality of your life.

The people you are always with, is ultimately who you become.

Do you guys agree? xxx

Those Things Called 'Humans'.

I'm going to try avoid going off on a rant in this post. But let's face it, we all have our days where we just hate people. We have enough of everyone, everything and just wish we could be alone. Me time.

They annoy us, they hurt us, they hate us, they criticise us, they're jealous of us or they judge us and this makes us in return, lose faith in mankind.

Around 7 billion people in the world and all it takes is one to change your opinion on them.

At secondary school, I was in a class of - at the time - what were immature girls. Being hardly any other coloured people in my form, I encountered racist remarks, b*tchyness and a whole load of other things. This would get to me really bad. I hated school at the start. I didn't understand why they were like that. In the end, I managed to stop caring and that's when it all got better.

Ironically however, it's mainly the ones close to us that transform our opinions on people. That's not how it's supposed to be right? They're meant to love us and see us happy.

No it's not supposed to be like that. Our nearest and dearest are the main ones that effect us, all because we care, we care the most about them.

Personally, I find that I care too much about everything and anything. Being a sensitive individual, all it takes is one little remark, one action and I'm deeply wounded. And the worst part is, I'm the only one caring. How can people be so hard-hearted? I think about this a lot, because I'd feel completely awful if I hurt someone, I like to see them happy. Although sometimes I wish I was like that. Cold. Heartless. Ignorant. It would mean I wouldn't get hurt. Selfish yes, yet it's better than being wounded.

People, be it jealousy or hatred or whatever reason, want to see you down. They like to see you fall and take pleasure in the pain it gives you. It gives them a sense of pride, they've accomplished something - they've got to you.

And that's the biggest mistake you can make.

Recently, I was feeling utterly worthless and crap, (urgh the things those humans can do to you) and my big brother gave me some good advice. He told me that people will always make you sad, bring you down and reminded me that I shouldn't feel like that because those who care know I'm a lovely person at heart and fun to be around. He told me to not let it get to me, to 'stand tall and show two fingers to the world.'

That's what we should do. Stop thinking about others and just live your life. Show them you're happy. The moment you start caring is the moment it will get to you.

It is a whole lot worse when it is those close to you though.

Don't you sometimes wish that there was no one else. That you could escape to a far away place, free yourself from these creatures and start afresh? I do.

Admittedly, to stop caring is something I really struggle with. I'm hoping I'll eventually get there. I want to be the girl with the 'I dont give a crap' attitude. Ha. Anyway, we've all got to try right?

I guess the kindness of humanity is all one needs to prosper.

Shame there are a few imbeciles who spoil it for us. *Sigh*